One of my biggest weaknesses is asking for help. Whether I’m struggling emotionally, physically, mentally, academically or financially. I often wonder why and come up with a number of answers. Perhaps I think I should be able to deal with it myself, or that I put myself in the trouble and should get myself out, maybe I don’t want to inconvenience anyone or annoy them. It could be that I don’t want to appear weak or like a failure, that I don’t think I’m worth helping. Mostly I think it comes down to my pride.
I want to appear as someone who has things together, is heading forwards and has emotional stability. I ask myself what I would expect of a friend in the same position, using these excuses to not ask for help. The reply I would probably give is ‘None of us are strong enough on our own, that’s why we need Jesus and fellowship. I love you and this isn’t a problem, you are important and I’m happy to support you. Never feel like you can’t ask for help, we all want to see you do well and will help in any way we can. Even if you feel you can’t ask a person for help, always ask God’. But why would I respond this way?
Deuteronomy 8:16-18 reminds us we should thank God for what we have, God is our provider. Ephesians 2:8-9 remind us that our works cannot save us, it doesn’t matter what we do in our strength, it’s what we do for God that matters. Zechariah 4:6 reminds us that it is by God’s Spirit we should do things, not by our own strength. If I feel like I have failed, that’s fine, it isn’t the end. God can use any situation no matter how hopeless it seems and turn it around (Romans 8:28). I should not try to fix things on my own, neither does God expect me to, I should confess to God and trust that he will lead me through.
I often wonder how I come across to others, but what I should be asking is whether God is being Glorified through me. Is it better that I hide my suffering and fall emotionally, or that I am honest and truthful even through my pain. I would rarely turn someone away for help (unless I thought they were simply being lazy), so why do I think people would think less of me for asking? I am learning to firstly being everything to God, whether I am struggling emotionally, feeling lonely, or struggling financially, and 85% of the time he ministers to me directly. God does however, love to work through his church, through his body.
Galatians 6:2-3 reads ‘Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself’. If I think I need to appear happy when I am not, I deceive myself. We are called to be honest with God and with each other. I need to put my pride aside and ask for help when I need it, and I’m sure I can’t be the only one who struggles with this. God has equipped his church to serve, and serving is an honour. Let us serve, but also as the disciples had to let Jesus wash their feet, learn to be served also. This is a hard lesson, but a very important one. Jesus thought you were worth dying for, and you are definitely worth helping. God does not make mistakes.
God bless you and keep you always.